My husband and I come from very different backgrounds. I grew up with both my parents and had a stable and healthy home. My husband, on the other hand, grew up with an alcoholic father and a drug addict mother. The mother abandoned my husband when he was seven-years-old. My husband had many issues related to the abandonment.
When we married in 2000, I moved away from my parents, to be exact 3,000 miles away from them. My husband’s parents were not involved in our relationship. I never had to deal with my mother in law.
In 2018 my husband’s mother called him to let him know that she wanted to reconnect with him and meet my children. I am not going to lie, and I was nervous.
We met at my house, at the beginning my mother in law was very nice, my husband was happy to see her but when she began bossing my children around things changed.
I had a hard time letting my mother in law into our lives, and I think it was more difficult for my husband.
Our marriage suffered a setback because we did not know how to handle the situation, my husband began financially supporting his mother, me, on the other hand, could not understand how she acted like if nothing happened.
I noticed that my husband would hide things from me; he would secretly send her money. I was furious when I found out that my husband lied to me.
After praying and asking God to help me understand, I was able to see that I was being selfish.I talked to my husband and told him that I would support him and ask him not to lie to me. It was clear that my husband did not want to have problems with my mother in law and me.
One thing that I learned from this experience; is that I have to accept my husband’s family. I learned that my children have the right to have a grandmother.
I had to be humble and accept my mother in law. I thought that I can’t criticize her for what she did. I can only be compassionate and tolerant.
My mother in law disappeared after a few months, and only calls my husband when she needs money. I know that things between my husband and I will not change but I wish I handle things differently.
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Marriage 2020 