Last week My husband and I celebrated 20 years of marriage; I began to think about all the amazing moments we have experienced. Even after so many years, we keep building on a strong foundation. People should look for resources that can help them to stay together and happy. The seven principles of Marriage Work from Dr. Gottman, it’s a great book that educated and promoted healthy relationships. I learned a few things:
Know your Husband/ love maps
A healthy relationship is essential to know and your partner. Knowing the desires and goals of each other can help you create a life together.
Fondness and Admiration
Find positive Characteristics of your husband. I used to criticize my husband everything he did. My relationship was toxic and almost unbearable. When I decide to forgive my husband and start a new life, I began to find the positive things about my husband.
Turn toward each other
It’s the little things that create a long-lasting relationship. My husband calls me every day to say good morning when he comes back home, and he kisses me. He gives me flowers now and then. I give him massages.
Compromise
Marriage is about charity and love. Partners should treat each other with respect.
Share meaning
Find a common goal. Dr. Gottman explains, “Marriage is not about raising kids, splitting chore or making love. It can also have a spiritual dimension”.My husband and I learned this recently. We have learned that having faith in something gives us an eternal perspective.
Marriage is a constant opportunity for growth and change. I think that the most important thing I learned for the book was that respect is one of the essential skills for a marriage to thrive.
I have been married 20 years, and there was a time when I thought divorce was the only answer. I am glad I persevered to the end.
Marriage 2020 