I met my husband when I was 15 years-old at a dance party, and he was only 14 years old. I never in a million years thought that I would marry him, but here I am 20 years later. Our friends ask my husband and me, “what is the secret of your marriage”. How can we still love each other after so many years?
I have learned along the way that there are things a marriage can do to be successful:
Money
Money is one of the reasons why marriages end up in divorce. A marriage can only be successful if couples talk openly about finances. Sit down and talk about finances. Create a budget that can help you to organize your finances.
Be positive
Attitude plays a vital role in marriage. I learned that By changing my attitude, my whole environment changes.
Nurture, be Humble, meek and patient
Focus on the qualities of your partner. Instead of criticizing their deficiencies, magnify their talents. On Mosiah 3:19 we read “For the natural man is a to God, and has been from the fall of Adam, and will be, forever and ever, unless he yields to the enticings of the Holy Spirit andPuttet off the natural man and becometh a saint through the atonement of Christ the Lord, and becometh as a child submissive child, submissive, meek, humble, patient, full of love….” Treat your partner with love and respect, and nurture your relationship every day.
Spend quality time
Many things might hinder a relationship. I have three kids, and I am also getting my Bachelor’s Degree. I am also helping the youth in my community. With my schedule, I have to make time for my husband and me. There are ways that you can have a good time, watch a movie or a museum. Walk under the stars and talk about your favorite book. Make it happen.
Be a best friend
A true friend shows compassion and love. Be a friend. Share your dreams, but also help your partner to reach their goals. Have fun and laugh.
In the Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work John Gottman teaches that some signs are like the horseman of the Apocalypse: Criticism, stonewalling, contempt, and defensiveness. Dr. Gottman’s revolutionary work in marital counseling suggests that we avoid those four indicators that relationship is doomed to divorce.
Marriage is full of ups and downs, while there is a common goal ina marriage many times the different personalities of each person. My husband is the person that I admire and love, He is there when I am having a tough day, he tells me jokes, and we go on dates, but we also get serious and talk about money and our future.
Marriage 2020 